It’s December 4th and I’ve not been able to raise any Christmas spirit to welcome the month. Too much disruption of life, too many unanswered questions fill my thoughts.
These are hard days.
I’ve had some of these in the past, but mostly I’ve lived a life of joy and simplicity, and I’ve been grateful for what I’ve had.
But I’m learning…still, or again, I’m never sure which it is…I’m learning that hard days have a way of making life worthwhile when you let them do their work.
The hard days make you stop, help you know what is important and what is irrelevant.
I just want to go shopping for presents under the tree, stop for a coffee and enjoy the Christmas lights, sing the old favorites, and snap photos of everyone. I want that, but that isn’t the rhythm for this year.
This is a year of digging deep. I ask myself every morning: what good thing will happen today? What’s already happened that I didn’t notice because I was too busy feeling anxious?
Wouldn’t it be nice if the anxieties of life took the month off, and just let us have the holidays in peace?
But there’s something important happening, even when it doesn’t feel fun, doesn’t feel right.
I am growing, and changing, not because I’m focused on myself, but because the time is right, the student is ready, and the teacher has appeared. The teacher is experience, and the knowledge that comes from hard days.
Something tells me I needed to get to this place…a place without the noise of decorating a house or getting caught up in the usual round of holiday traditions…I needed to stand without my props around me. I need to face my challenges, and without the distractions, it’s easier to do that.
Meditation teaches me to be still, to find balance, to accept. Experience teaches me that life will sort itself, right itself, and that there will be richness I can’t begin to imagine that will come from my uncertainty.
Uncertainty is where the answers of tomorrow are forged. When you’re in the in between, the options are all before you. You can’t see the way things will work out, but you know they will.
Like an adventurer, I try to tell myself…I’m like an adventurer, wondering what amazing thing is around the corner.
I’m learning that uncertainty can be a fuel to help me look for possibilities. If I knew the answers, I wouldn’t be searching. And if I didn’t search, I would accept life just as it’s been…no opportunity for the new, the exciting, the beautiful that will come out of the questions.
If this seems like a philosophy to comfort myself…it is that. But I’ve seen it work in the past, so I know that it will work in the future.
This is a time to trust: life will work itself out. I have a role to play in that, but for now, my role is to be open, to be a student of the process, to be expectant, and to keep faith.
Aahh, I feel better already. I feed myself the words of hope, the words of expectation, and those little seeds flower as soon as they touch.
Yes, it will be a quiet season this year…family and a few traditions. But this is not a year for all my usual festivities. It will be a season of quiet, and a season of gracious expectation. And that is a good place to find myself.
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Knowing you a little bit, you’ll not just find your way through this, you’ll find a way to make it glorious and meaningful. I know it!
A wonderful song by a musician friend of mine is called “Today I expect to be SURPRISED.” It is full of positive expectancy and joy. So I expect YOU to be surprised in that way today. Enjoy your quiet holiday. Namaste
Thanks to “From the Sticks to the Bricks and Back Again” for leading me here.
This post sounds like an application of your meditation retreat. Different is not bad, different is simply different. After spending last year’s Christmas packed into a tiny apartment with our “stuff”, I am really enjoying all the traditions of Christmas this year: decorating, making Christmas cards, etc. But I needed last year’s different Christmas to really appreciate this year’s Christmas. As you allude to in your posts, there is real purpose to this season of your life! Keep searching and being still!
I’m hearing so many speaking of a quieter…easier Christmas..
I believe the world we live in has us checking on what is really important…
more thankfulness…and trying to see what and where our lives are heading… Will there be change…oh, yes… with each new year our lives move forward…and we seem to take heed …with a little of uneasiness thrown in…