Riley, two-year-old princess and budding dictator, came to visit at Thanksgiving, bringing her parents along. Believe me, a two-year-old is always the star of the show, whatever the personality or parenting style may be. This is not to say that she is intentionally allowed to run wild, or take over…there’s a lot of effort going into training, molding, shaping, squashing, and occasionally silencing the little angel. I say all of this with a smile on my face and a wealth of love in my heart. She is a joy, and a bundle of energy, and a two-year-old. I know, I already said that…but it bears repeating.
So on her visit to Gram and PB’s house…she had been to Alaska once before, when she was about eight months, but she wasn’t really mobile yet, so that hardly counts…she explored a bit…got comfy with all the rooms and beds and spaces under the breakfast bench in the kitchen, and craftily hid small toys in places that would take me months to discover. I like to think that we’ll be fully recovered before her next trip.
Her most lasting gift, other than the photos we took, was a small inscription on my pine coffee table. Now, I’ve had this table and some matching pieces since the early 90s…these are classic, traditional Southern-Living-look pieces that have served me well, and migrated about the country from Michigan to Colorado to Alaska with scarcely a mark. But now, the coffee table has met Riley.
On the afternoon of Thanksgiving, I was doing something in the kitchen (my native habitat), when I heard an outburst of “NO RILEY, DON’T DO THAT!” coming from the living room. I rushed in to see if she was ok…not really concerned about anything but her…and saw that she had very thoughtfully been signing the coffee table with a blue ball point pen. This is her handiwork:
And although I immediately (truly!) recognized that it was her toddler attempt to leave a memento of her stay, and I also (immediately!) realized that the table just grew in value to me…after all, it was only valuable to me anyway…I must admit, I did give it a good polishing with a variety of products, hoping to at least remove the blue from the marks…I knew those were carved to last.
Well, I didn’t get the blue out, and now, as I look across the surface, that’s pretty much all I see anymore. But it’s growing on me. I’ve already decided that Riley will inherit this piece…whatever else I have to leave to her, she’s getting this table. It’s solid, and it’s hers. She put her stamp on it. And I’m ok with that.
Joking aside, it’s really a great metaphor for the experience of parenting (and now grand-parenting) in general…These little people mark on your heart, little knowing or understanding that they’re leaving a permanent imprint of themselves in your life. Some marks are more on the order of medals, others are definitely scars. But the surface and the marks are unique to the parent and child. (Or grandparent…I keep forgetting I’m in the second category now.) I’ll never look at my coffee table without a reminder of the little girl who signed it. And truly, even though the marks are blue, and don’t really belong in my color scheme, because she put them there, they’re right at home in my space, and in my heart.
If you had an essentially happy childhood, that tends to dwell with you. Tracy Kidder
6 thoughts on “Riley’s table”
Isn’t this just another display of unconditional love that flows from parents and grandparents. I bet you won’t remove the signature now – even if there is an easy solution!
Yes, unconditional love…that’s the important thing. I’m really not upset about the table, and wasn’t from the beginning…but I wouldn’t mind removing the blue, and keeping just the marks! ~ Sheila
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Brand new kitchen table…black permanent marker…my sweet granddaughter…
But, even thugh I new I could live with it…her Momma told me about Mr.Clean Magic Eraser…any grocery should have them…and it took it off…I gather she had experienced similar drawings…
You know, I didn’t try that. I didn’t know if it would hurt the finish…but maybe it couldn’t hurt it?! I’ll see if it takes the blue out and let you know. Thanks for the tip! ~ Sheila
Sweet post! I have an old desk that belonged to my parents. Sometime in the early 60’s, my nephew crawled under it and wrote on the underneath side with with an ink pen. I love that it’s there – he’s now 53 years old!
I know…as soon as I caught my breath, I was ok with it…just made it more personal! I’m sure most people have a story like this! ~ Sheila